Core Beliefs
We Feel What We Believe
“Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved. -William Jennings Bryan”
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Introduction
In my last post, “I Confess” I stated that your core beliefs dictate your expectations. Your core beliefs also dictate your feelings.
Many people don’t make the connection between their feelings and their beliefs. Typically they view bad feelings as being connected situations or circumstance. They are feeling bad because something bad happened to them. They also feel that the pain they experience in life is because of something that happened to them in their past.
If a person is asked about how they feel they usually blame it on a situation or a person. For example:
- My job really stresses me out.
- You make me feel so_______.
- You hurt my feelings.
- I am sad because nobody likes me.
- I feel really bad because I was abused as a child.
- I’m really down because I lost my job.
- I’ve had a bad life because my dad was mentally ill.
- I’m having a tough time and it’s always been that way.
You almost never hear someone say, “I’m feeling really sad because I believe I can’t get a better job or have a better life.” People almost always blame their feelings on a specific situation or person.
Because you believe what you do, you do and say what you do. Everything you do, everything you think, and everything you say is a result of a core belief. If you want to identify your core beliefs listen to what you say and think.
The core beliefs that you learn during your life experiences, carry much more influence in your moment-by-moment decision-making process than you might expect. Consequently, when your core belief is changed your choices change.
For example, when you firmly place your core belief in God as your protector, you no longer react to fearful events:
- I AM changing the situation…
