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When I Understood This, My Life Changed Completely

Living together in a relationship. A collage

Øivind H. Solheim
Nov 17 · 1 min read

“My bounty is as boundless as the sea.”
“My love as deep; the more I give to thee,
The more I have, for both are infinite.”
Shakespeare.

Kindness
makes your partner
feel cared for
understood and validated

Along with emotional stability
kindness is the most important predictor
of satisfaction and stability
in a relationship

The more someone receives
or witnesses kindness
the more they will
be kind themselves

which leads to upward
spirals of love
and generosity
in a relationship

On the contrary —
Contempt is the main factor
that tears couples apart.
People who are focused

on criticizing their partners
miss half of positive things
their partners are doing.
They see negativity when it’s not there.

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