Why Most People Are Not Lovable Enough
Because negativity is comfortable
Sometimes, you believe the world is full of haters, liars and cheaters.
You are right.
Because people don’t know your business and leave offensive comments. They speak deadly words and be envious for your life. They are naive and don’t know how to handle conflicts.
And you even helped them anytime they need, but in the trouble, they excuse and move.
I know the world is full of negative people.
Even politicians, media and Television channels use fear to execute their propaganda.
Fear, hate, anger, jealousy, envy, doubt is everywhere, and It seems we openly promote negativity.
But, in contrary, few people are there who willing to stick with us, and they don’t care if you hurt them.
Sometimes they throw harsh taunts but you are sure that they don’t leave you whatever the situation will be.
They love you no matter what.
And, most people are not like them.
They are insecure and immature.
But, why do they do this?
Because We Convinced Our Mind That The World Is A Bad Place.
Every day we hear about war, hostility between countries, rape, child and women trafficking. So, our mind is convinced over time that the world is full of villains.
Negative news spreads fast.
We openly talk about hatred. We angry on people and insult them instead of providing clarity. Ultimately, our mind developed negative experiences.
And we believe what we see. So, if you see fear and worries, how you expect to be positive and Joyous?
Second, your life is full of agony. Someone cheated on you or left without closure. So, the world looks unlovable, and you told these lines thousands of time. So, you are convinced to be unfriendly.
Most people don’t know how and what they are feeling. They don’t know these beliefs can cause a fortune.
Our Pain Is Not Painful Enough.
Pain is the great source of love.
Remember one of your painful experience which you tackled. You don’t have clues or answers to avoid it. Your productivity lost, it was scary.
Pain creates hatred for pain. It expands thoughts and makes you stronger. It creates acceptance.
However, most people see pain as fear. They don’t want to tolerate. So they avoid instead of accepting it.
Their pain lost power to create hatred against pain.
Therefore, their mindset is pain-avoidance, not love-focused.
Only those people experience love who focus on love and embrace pain. They are so lovable that they love their pain.
Once you accept pain, over time, you defeat your pain not by resisting it but by honoring it.
Our Interpretation Creates Negativity Loop.
Your world depends on how you see it. It looks real. If you see hate, you will feel hate all over the body.
People interpret things with color glass. If they see something unacceptable, they avoid it, and if something is admirable, they encourage it.
Although, our fear, anxiety, sadness, guilt, and regret make our interpretations negative.
People don’t know what they are doing.
Observe some friends. Some are positive and explore positive outcomes. No matter how hard the situation is, they find ways to overcome it. In opposite, some people are so cynical that they only complain and excuse. Suppose you give them the simple task. Still, they have ‘no’ reason.
Most people even live with it. They find it good because It’s easy to complain and blame on people, society and government.
Your interpretation matters how you see life. I experienced that some situations look real because of social proofs, experiences or logical predictions but it changes once I took action to overcome it.
I firmly believe one thing. No matter how ‘real’ your situation is, your first reaction must be love and acceptance.
I am not saying that you should think positive or interpret positively. It’s a dumb mistake. You need to analyze based on practical conditions with love and happiness in mind.
Hatred Is Comfortable.
Believe or not, it’s true.
Most people find hate, fear, or anger comfortable.
You will be amazed to know this:
- People want to be angry.
- People cheat not by mistake but it provides relief.
- People don’t take action because they think that they have defeated their fear and accomplished something.
- People become envious because it provides a picture of success.
- People regret because guilt will make them free from what they have done.
Negativity is comfortable.
It’s easy to be angry or hurt someone.
We Aren’t Courageous Enough To Stand For.
When you love and accept yourself, when you know who really cares about you, and when you learn from your mistakes, then you stop caring about what people who don’t know you think. — Beyonce Knowles
Let’s face it.
What are our prime actions for any situation? Are we avoiding it or facing it? Because it reflects your capacity to love.
Most people have a pain avoidance mentality. They don’t want fear, hurt and uncertainty. But those negative emotions are part of life. Though, It depends on how you treat them.
Negative emotions create resilience. It realizes your worth. It sets you for success and makes you real. Ultimately, negativity leads to love.
We value love because of fear.
It depends on how you react. If you are avoiding it, you are constantly struggling with your self, you will be confused and overwhelmed and that costs more mental energy.
And if you accept it, it becomes easy. Once you pass through it, you love this process and find alternatives which ignite love and happiness. It needs less energy but strong courage.
And courage comes with acceptance of pain.
As simple as that.
One of the best quote I read.
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness because it shows me the stars. — Og Mandino
Our Society Promotes Fear, Uncertainty And Defeat.
Politicians, media, advertisements and television channels exploit human nature for monetary gain. They know well your insecurities. What you are bad at, what and how you interpret incidents.
Suppose you feel negative all day, so they expand negativity and realizing you that you are feeling right. They know how you would benefit them. So, they create one strong image.
You are not good enough.
You lack something, you are not beautiful, your hair is not silky, you should eat this, you should do that, etc.
They know how to change your behavior, how to change your way of thinking. They just know how to create a false reality. They know you don’t trust yourself that you are not enough. They use your lack of trust.
Although, We Are Born To Love And Be Loved.
A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick. — Brene Brown
This is the most powerful belief I adopted in my life. No matter what happens, we are born to love. Our primal instinct is love. I only find ways to love more and trying to expand it.
Love has a strong power than other emotions. But, you must trust.
Someone left you? You love.
Someone cheat on you? You love.
Someone insulted you? You love.
It’s hard, that’s why you must be courageous.
Most people react like this:
- They left someone and hate it who left them.
- They cheat someone who cheated on them.
- They harass someone who abused them.
It’s simple, Even kids angry on you if you show rage.
Play ahead of the game.
Love her like no one else has loved before. Love her that she forgets cheating.
That is where love stands.
Break the negativity loop.
I know it’s hard, but promoting hurt and fear leads to resentment.
Ask yourself. What do you want? Comfort with negativity or courage with positivity, and, you can discover where you lack.
You don’t need to change something. You just aware of how you see life and your mind will take charge of itself.
Being lovable is simple. Love people until they cry with joy. That is what we are craving for.
