Your Hero Should Be Your 10 Year Self in the Future

An extremely powerful lesson this Oscar-winning actor taught me

Jessie van Breugel
Nov 11, 2020 · 3 min read
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Most of us are familiar with the beautiful speech Matthew McConaughey gave after winning an Oscar for this tremendous performance in Dallas Buyer’s Club. In his speech, he naturally thanked the people he had been working for, but the most intriguing part comes when he decides to share something personal.

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In his life, there are 3 things he needs every day:

This third answer is absolutely stunning. It beautifully articulates the true power of self-development, mental fortitude, and the ability to look within oneself to become a better human being.

His speech went on as follows:

And to my hero, that’s who I chase. Now when I was 15 years old, I had a very important person in my life come to me and say, “Who is your hero?”. And I said I don’t know I gotta think about that, give me a couple of weeks. I come back two weeks later, this person comes up and says “Who’s your hero?” And so I thought about it and I said you know who it is, it’s me in 10 years.

So I turn 25, 10 years later that same person comes to me and goes “so are you a hero?” And I was like, not even close. No, no, no. She said “Why?” I said because my hero is me at 35. So you see every day, every week, every month and every year of my life, my hero is always 10 years away. I’m never going to beat my hero. I’m not going to obtain that, I know I’m not. And that’s just fine with me because that keeps me with somebody to keep on chasing.

This particular part speaks to me in the sense that he’s talking about the chase, a journey that’s never over. On one side, it’s about the unattainable, but on the other side, it shows that the real prize is in the journey. And, that’s what life’s about.

There’s no final destination for our goals

We can’t control everything in life, but we can control how we view life. We can deliberately choose to take control of our lives and become better human beings. We can choose to practice gratitude, while at the same time we stay hungry and ambitious.

With every achievement, we get closer to our ultimate goals, but we will never reach them completely. We’re nearing our target but never touch it. Our goals will always be ahead of us.

That’s the beauty of life, the chase is what makes it an exciting struggle and addictive challenge all-in-one. Keep working and make sure your future doesn’t get away from you.

Find a balance in always having something to aim for, but at the same time being grateful for where you are in life.

Be blissfully unsatisfied:

Blissfully happy with where you’re at in life, while at the same time you can be equally dissatisfied with wanting more or knowing you have more to give.

Spending time with success can be a great teacher

Besides his magnificent speech and stellar performances on screen, I didn’t know much about McConaughey. However, as he recently appeared on one of my favorite podcasts, On Purpose with Jay Shetty, I quickly learned that there’s so much behind this charismatic storyteller.

He spoke beautifully about the wisdom he used to overcome challenges in his life and how he experienced several pivotal moments in his life. And finally, he shined his light on how your success moments can pull you through hardships in life.

It’s all about overcoming challenges in life and keep going.

Thanks for reading.

- Jessie

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Jessie van Breugel

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