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Men Are The Cause of Dead Bedrooms
Men’s entitlement and not viewing women as human beings are the cause of sexless relationships
Anyone ever been on the “Dead Bedrooms” subreddit on Reddit?
The bulk of the posts are from men crashing out over their wives not allowing them the sex they feel they are entitled to. Sometimes they call their wives frigid and they’re bewildered that their wives aren’t interested in performing their “wifely duties.”
Why I’m not in an intimate relationship
I’ve never been married. However, I’m asexual, meaning I experience sexual attraction infrequently or never. Before I realized I was asexual ten years ago, I twisted my soul into a pretzel by forcing myself into intimate relationships I had little interest in being in because I thought it was what I was supposed to do. Sex was the high cost of admission to maintaining intimate relationships, a price I often reluctantly paid.
Once I removed myself from the dating pool and stopped forcing myself into intimate relationships I didn’t want, I began to understand that I didn’t have to compromise my bodily autonomy just to have a relationship. I didn’t have to be defined by sex. I was a whole, valuable person regardless if I had sex or not.
