I Wish I Were Born with an Ignore Button
Because then all I need to do is hit the button and get on with my life.
Memories or present circumstances trigger feelings. Depending upon the type of memory, feelings inject happy or sad hormones.
Memories have a long-lasting impact. Some cannot be deleted, no matter how much you try. But when it comes to current scenarios, I desperately wish I were born with an ignore button.
We Must Feel Everything
Imagine how convenient it would be to have one. Just press it when you know someone is chewing your brain or someone is coldly behaving towards you.
Even better is using the ignore button when someone says something spiteful, and you bite your tongue to hold back tears. Imagine then if one clicks the button, you could forget and numb the pain.
But as said in the heart-aching book turned movie ‘The Fault in Our Stars’ –
“That’s the thing about pain. It demands to be felt”
— John Green
No matter how hard you wish, we just aren’t born with one, and we must feel everything.
Press the Button, Now!
Pain then becomes our greatest lesson. Painful conversations or memories serve us as a reminder of what we are today and how to be cautious and spare ourselves from more significant trouble.
However, the mind is vicious, and it replays memories that are tough to ignore.
Take, for example; I would love to use the ignore button during:
- Petty gossip
- Cold behaviour from people
- Tear causing memories
- Anxiety about the future
- Anticipation about future goals
- Waiting for future outcomes of our efforts
- People having an opinion on what you should have achieved by now
All these causes unnecessary stress, and they appear in one form or the other. That’s when I wish I had a ignore button that helps me switch to the present and get on with my life.
Task — Create an Ignore Button
If only it were that simple.
How then to use the ignore button? Well, we create one by calling a friend, mentor or writing in a journal.
Talk and vent it all out. We all need to express how we feel and look at things from a different perspective. Only then can we detach and focus on the now and tell ourselves that the things bothering us now won’t even matter a year from now. Until then just hang in there, scream into the pillow or take a shower.
Because no matter how much we try, there is no end to pain-inducing conversations caused by people and gut-wrenching memories.
Therefore, to maintain our sanity, we need to create our ignore button. It could be by talking to our best friend or writing in that journal.
The choice is yours.