Why Couldn’t He Be Real?
Grieving a person that never existed.
I find it easy to get along with people and form basic connections, but when it comes to dating, I find it much harder to fall in love.
Over the past 15 years of my life, there haven’t been many instances where I met someone and felt a spark, someone I could see myself being in a relationship with. This includes people at work or friends that I have made.
Even if we get along well and connect, form a friendship, there is always something that makes me think they wouldn’t be a good match for a relationship. I guess being picky and having expectations of what I want in a man are a good thing in general; it means I am independent and value myself, not desperate to be with someone for the sake of it.
But if you have been in a relationship with a narcissist, it can feel frustrating when you think back to the instant connection you seemed to have. There are days when I just want to curl up in bed and cry all day — I had found my soulmate, why couldn’t he be real?
He was perfect on paper
Narcissists are really good at morphing into whatever character they believe you are looking for, and many times with great effect. He was handsome, sexy, charming, funny, highly intelligent, successful and the number of…
