Letting Go of The Past
“Separating yourself from the past and how it liberates you for the future.”
In order to hold one must first let go.
I know. It’s a bit cliché.
Years ago you may have loved someone differently. You may have known things to be different from how they are today. You may have even understood yourself a little bit differently too. As everyone progresses throughout time their paths merge, twist, intertwine and bleed outwards. Together we each get to tell our own story in one way or another. Every single one is intricately detailed and made of unique threading from our everyday experiences that brings them to life.
Some are good.
Some are bad.
Others are a mix.
But all of them are simultaneously different and alike in some ways.
We can all choose to be the narrator of our own lives’ and truly live the way we want to. We can make a difference together or individually. Either way, we all have a choice.
If we did not learn how to believe that things can change at one point in time from another then there would be no differentiation from the past to what is now. Nor from the present to the future. Time’s relativity plays a huge role in measuring how one’s perspective can be influenced.
This is how you can learn to let things be behind you in life.
This is how you learn to let go.
When letting go of the past it is very important to learn from it. When you are able to distinguish between mistakes, successes and other neutral events you can grasp knowledge more firmly in order to apply it. Some people learn from or experience events more with their mind versus their hearts and vice versa. Spontaneity comes more easily for those who enjoy being more open to current opportunities while planning is second nature in other cases. The reason why it is so important to differentiate between these methods of learning and experience is so that you can address what is your preferred way to go about life and how to reflect more accurately. Once done you can truly unveil what has been, what you can do to change it (if necessary) and how to move on.
A huge shoutout to one of my best friends, Jon Cobb. He is a personal trainer, athletic coach, and developer. He has gone through thick and thin to achieve whatever he puts his heart and soul into. Not only that but he has defining leadership qualities and thoroughly enjoys helping others. He has his own brand and website available here as well as LinkedIn, Instagram, and Facebook.
This man has the ability to discern and eradicate what is referred to as a “victim mentality.” Sometimes in life people may hang onto or hold belief systems that no longer serve them which reinforce negative “self fulfilling prophecies”. If one is to let go of the past they must learn to change the way they currently see things, otherwise the past may repeat itself. A good question to ask yourself is: “Am I going in circles or am I going through cycles?”
Sometimes all you need is a change of perspective. That can make all the difference.
The different levels of perceptual basis can ideally interact within oneself across time to influence one of the greatest powers in people: Change.
In order to let go of the past you must also remember to not look for other ways to reunite it within current context and circumstances. This way the future will be based upon a new and improved foundation. Doesn’t mean you cannot self reflect it just means that you have know when to let go. In other words, don’t go looking for happiness where you once lost it.
“Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.” — Eckhart Tolle
So look for new ways to go about life and remember, it’s okay to make mistakes but that doesn’t mean you have to keep reliving the same experiences nor do you have to suffer through them internally. Letting go is a part of life. By utilizing a sense of radical acceptance and coming to terms with things it is possible to carry on and move forwards. Let the past be the past and don’t trip on what is now behind you.
When you are finally capable of separating yourself from the past there is a sense of freedom that becomes embedded within. Remember: You are not your story. By acknowledging what was, what is and what could be will help you discover what you do and do not want in life.
Here is another motivational video for more inspiration with whatever you’re going through, dealing with or maybe surviving. Les Brown and Eric Thomas capture the importance of believing in oneself to change your life from the past to a brighter future.
