Man Said: “Man or Bear?” And Women Said…
Fuck Men, Give Me The Bear
Dear women, this essay is for you. If you identify as a woman, this post is for you. If you’re trans, this post is for you. Cis, white, Black, Asian, Jewish, Palestinian, this is for you. Please listen to this song while reading this essay:
Women everywhere relish in the idea that today in this world, we can literally be whatever the fuck that we want. Many of us are starting to understand that without children, without a partner, comes a kind of freedom many of our female friends rarely get the chance to exercise the way that we do.
There’s power in that.
It’s intoxicating coming home from work, throwing off your clothes, pouring a glass of wine while you dance around naked, and there’s not a single soul asking not one fucking thing from you.
It’s sexy as Lucifer to know that at the end of the day your life belongs to you and no one else. Is it lonely? Sure sometimes, that’s why we get a cat, or a dog, or have the occasional sexual affair, but are we willing to give up this freedom for a partner who only wants to half-ass exist in this world? No, and here’s why.
Women fought alongside men for centuries, always being told — throughout every century on this planet — that we are inferior. We’ve been told that we’re not as good, strong, powerful, smart, wise, beautiful, and talented as men.
Nothing we do is comparable because we are the more “Fair sex” we are the “weaker” sex. Yes, men have convinced themselves of this shit, and what’s worse is like the vampires they are, they pass this ideology on to their male children, and their daughters.
Girls are brought up to believe that they can’t be more, that they can’t or shouldn’t want to go to school or travel, and that there is no world outside of what they’ve been brought up to know.
This form of control is and always has been abusive, and it’s because of the industrial era, that we have the freedoms we do now, but if we’re not super careful, we’re going to find every single one of those rights ripped away.
Right now from Alberta to Texas women and women’s issues are on the ballot. Still, women are not being consulted before harmful rhetoric changes to even more harmful policies that will and are destroying the lives of women who just want to live.
Women today are not going to give up their freedoms because men decide that’s what they want. And men are not going to stop crying like babies when we decide that we don’t want them.
The bear vs the man situation proved that so eloquently and I do need to point out the fact that the situation exists.
Women were asked a question.
Women answered honestly in the millions.
Men lost their shit.
And men in the billions spent thousands of dollars telling us all how wrong we all are, and how we’re stupid, selfish, and cruel, for choosing the bear because what about our poor unborn children?
Lawd have mercy because I have absolutely not one drop for a man who thinks I need him to survive.
I would rather live in a cardboard box than spend the rest of my life with a person I don’t love enough to partner with by choice, and yet that’s exactly what’s happening today with celebrity men and young women.
This isn’t new. Rich and powerful men have always fed on the young and beautiful, but it doesn’t have to be this way anymore. We have power now, we have freedom now, and we have each other, it could be so much better than it is.
When women write about Vampires you pay us billions. When women write about rape you call us crazy.
Most men don’t even understand why they’re angry, sad, or miserable around women, but they know it’s something and that’s all that matters.
They don’t understand their rage comes not from the women in their lives, but from the men in their lives, and thus we get abused because we’re easiest to throw away. There’s always another girl around the corner, am I right?!
There are places in the world — in America, England, France, Canada, Japan, Palestine, Greece, and other places — where girls are trapped in the lives they were born into because they have no options. There is no escape.
Little girls everywhere, in every corner of the universe are watching their mothers suffer, and are choosing by destiny to make different choices, so they don’t have to suffer in the same ways.
Men’s major problem with women is that most men want to sit around playing video games while they stuff their faces with Cheetos while we suck their dicks in a maid’s uniform and clean up after them when we’re done.
The problem women have is that none of us find this life appealing and thus are choosing to live on our own.
In South Korea they call it The Four B Movement, in America they call it feminism, whatever you decide to call it, at the end of the day we are at war, not with each other, but with the patriarchy and with colonialism that comes from the patriarchal desire to destroy everything in the path of the white man’s gaze.
Your power as a woman, comes from the fact that you exist, not because some man said you have power, or gave you power by extension of his name and place in the world, but because you exist.
That’s it. That’s your power. You fucking, exist.
What you do with your superpower, how you harness it and learn to use it, well my dear, that’s up to you, and you alone.
Happy Mother’s Day Mom…thank you for showing me my power.
Sending all my love,
Devon J Hall, The Loud Mouth Brown Girl
