Why I Held a Divorce Ceremony
And why it was more important than my marriage ceremony.
Think about the way a marriage begins: engraved invitations, formal gowns and tuxedos. There are vows, spoken out loud, in front of family and friends. Maybe you exchange rings, maybe bind your hands with colourful ribbons.
Like any good ritual, the wedding offers a kind of container to guide you through a big rite of passage.
Now think about the way a marriage ends. Not much here in the way of ritual. No container to help guide you through a different, and often even more life-changing, life milestone.
Unless, like me, you decide to have a marriage dissolution ceremony, AKA a formal divorce ceremony.
Why hold a marriage dissolution ceremony?
Four years after my fourteen-year marriage ended, my friends had still not forgiven my ex-husband. He’d left me for another woman and although I’d forgiven him years earlier, many of my friends would still spit when they said his name.
James. Ptooey!
Having a divorce ceremony served two purposes for me.
First, it was my final step in healing and releasing that my marriage and my relationship with my ex-husband. I felt I…
