Candle lit dinners, roses, and chocolate all sound amazing and Hallmark tells us it’s what she really wants. Baubles in champagne glasses look sparkly on television and Kay Jewelers wants you to believe it’s in the cards.
If you really want to give your special someone what she really wants this Valentine’s Day, you’ll need to step away from the television and the aisle of pink, red, and white and do a little listening.
Whether you’re in a new relationship or one that dates back to your younger years, your special someone wants something only you can give them.
For me, it’s not about Valentine’s Day and this may be the case for your sweetheart, too.
I would rather my husband tell me on Tuesday, just because, he appreciates what I do in our home to keep it running as smoothly as possible, while juggling a career and a toddler.
He knows surprising me with my favorite energy drink or a fresh cut flower brings a smile to my face.
And on the rare occasion we can splurge, candles, flowers, or even jewelry are appreciated.
I am low maintenance. The simple things in life appeal to me more than anything. A surprise camping trip to get away for a day or two. An adult’s only night in a nice hotel room where we can have a glass of wine from the tub and enjoy a bubble bath together.
If your partner loves going to the spa, getting their hair and nails done, or massages, why not splurge on a gift certificate if you can? Even better, book a couple’s massage and enjoy the blissful time together.
If they’re like me and work from home with a little darling in tow, give them the day off. Even if that looks like them still working, book a room at a local hotel with free wi-fi and let her work in style, without her usual co-worker.
Be sure to cover all meals ahead of time so she doesn’t have to worry about a thing. Leave some champagne on ice for her to enjoy when her workday wraps up.
If none of this sounds like you, or you’re more sensual in nature, at home spa sessions are a great way to show your partner you’re thinking of them.
Turn down the lights, break out the massage oils, light candles, and run a hot bath.
After your partner has soaked away her stress, invite her to lie down on your bed, sans clothing of course.
Warm the massage oil between your palms and gently rub away her aches and pains.
Of course, this can easily turn sexual, if you’re both up for it.
It’s important we feel appreciated in our relationships. Whether it’s a holiday or a Tuesday of any regular week, showing our partner we’ve listened and heard what they need and are willing to go the extra mile to show them how much we care means the world.
Demeter deLune is a writer forged by the fires of desire. You can join her newsletter here.