5 Ways to Be More Dominant in the Bedroom
Even if you’re a beginner
I’ve been exploring a lot of control play with my husband lately. We started off slow and eased in carefully because BDSM was kind of intimidating to both of us.
Until we started experimenting, I didn’t appreciate that domination exists on a spectrum. I sort of had this idea that you either wanted to be paddled hard and left in a cage or you were just completely vanilla.
So, I picked completely vanilla and tried to make sex as interesting as I could without veering into any kind of kink.
I wish I had realized there was a middle ground, because giving up control to someone I trust wholeheartedly is one the most exhilarating and satisfying things for me to have sex.
It’s been a very interesting discovery for me, but it’s been a fairly easy one. Exploring my submissive side does involve some care and thought on my part, and I do my best to be an active participant even when my wrists are cuffed, but mostly I just have to surrender and let it happen to me.
Things were more challenging for Mr. Austin. Exploring his dominant side involved a lot more work. He’s the one who has to take control from me and set the scene without pushing too far past my limits. He has to figure out the right things to say and do to…
