Why Are We Still Weird About Masturbation in Marriage?
Why do couples feel the need to be secretive about it?
When I was a teenager, a lot of my friends had the same attitude when it came to their boyfriends masturbating or watching porn. They thought it was completely inappropriate and insulting. Why would their boyfriends get themselves off instead of saving up all that energy until they could hook up again?
I remember thinking that they were completely nuts.
It was just a little harmless jerking off. Plus, weren’t we all masturbating?
Having the dissenting opinion made me feel open-minded and sexually progressive.
Until the night I walked in on my boyfriend pleasuring himself.
We were college kids, engaged to be married, and living in an apartment off campus. Still, we kept very different schedules. The future Mr. Austin was an early bird. He woke up hours before I did (and he still does). He would spend his mornings reading, studying, and working on term papers.
At least, I thought that’s all he did.
One night, I wandered out of our bedroom at around four in the morning and on my way to the bathroom, I caught sight of him stroking himself at his computer.
