The Pygmalion Love Fallacy

There are some myths that are so prevalent that they get re-shaped and re-told over and over again. Pygmalion is one of those, in every form from Disney cartoons to classic plays by George Bernard Shaw to one of the most beloved of misogynistic musicals, My Fair Lady.

The Metaphor Monster

Metaphors are powerful things.

One of the richest men in the world made his fortune with a simple metaphor: Windows. Other metaphors are kind of inexplicable: does this, has this ever looked like a mouse? Advertisers use it when they want to really get you, and it…

Get It Out: Joy vs. Happiness (part 3 of 3)

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Simple

It can scarcely be denied that the supreme goal of all theory is to make the irreducible basic elements as simple and as few as possible without having to surrender the adequate representation of a single datum of experience.

- Albert Einstein, from “On the Method of Theoretical…

Take 15: Pause (part 2 of 3)

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Take 15: Lose It (part 3 of 3)

Fifteen won’t do it.

Well, let me put it another way: if fifteen does it, then count yourself pretty damn lucky that whatever it was that you requred peace or reflection only needed fifteen minutes of your time.

Get It Out (Part 1 of 3)

Once upon a time, in a life miles and years away from now, I was actively involved in a dance community. I was an instructor and a performer, and at monthly get-togethers would be very much in demand to help teach people moves, techniques, and occasionally do a demonstration…

Draw vs. Drive

Ever have something that you feel like you should love, but somehow have trouble actually finding the energy/time/resources to do it? Writing is like that for me and some of my peers: “I hate writing. I love having written.” It’s an act of will to bring myself to the keyboard every day and launch that…

Report from the Field

I spend a lot of time bringing up various practice ideas and talking about how people might want to try them. It occurs to me that I should walk the walk as well as talk the talk, so here is a brief and painfully personal account of my current State of Practice.

Using Tech to Romancify Your Life, part 2

Surprise! You thought you’d have to wait until Friday to get the second part of that last Love post, didn’t you? Au contraire, mes chers lecteurs! The fact is, the second part of that idea about romancifying your life is related to more of a general…

Never Lie About Love (the Non-Stick Edition)

This particular post is a bit harder to write.

Mainly because it’s about something I’m not particularly good at.

In fact, it’s rather remarkable that for lesson that I’ve learned over and over again…

Using Tech to Romancify Your Life, pt. 1

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Get It Out: What’s In It For You? (part 2 of 3)

Picture this: I’m helping a colleague choreograph a dance performance. She’s asked for some input from me specifically on lifts and adding height to the dance through body mechanics (nowadays often called “acro” by all you young whippersnappers)…