Chasing Love
How I learned to let go of my ego and just love
Does love really hurt? We associate love with joy and also the loss of love with pain. We see love as a risk and many of us in relationships spend a lot of time in the fear of losing the other person… rather than just being present in the moment and enjoying the feeling of loving them.
Commonly in today’s dating process, I’ve observed that many people spend more time chasing the love from someone else rather than spending the time to learn the other person and choosing to just love them.
Why does it matter if the other person loves you before you love them? Why not just love them? What is actually hurting when you are not returned the love? Love isn’t causing that pain. The reality is, that is the ego getting bruised.
So new idea… throw your hands up in the air and say “who cares! I’m just going to love!” Even better, don’t set requirements to love this person — let them be what they want to be in your life, whether it is romantic partner or friend, when you’re loving them you just feel very excited about being around them in the first place — let them come as they are and you will truly realize that is the perfect gift. Anything more is obviously welcome, and is likely.
Love does not demand, we do. If you just spend time expressing your love in action instead of words… instead of always waiting to hear the L word, you will never have to worry about if that other person loves you back — you will be too busy loving the person… no matter what. Many times more than not if you have the courage to love and not spend time chasing love out of fear, it will be quite hard for the object of your affection to not fall completely in love with you. Why? Because who wouldn’t? When you just love, you encompass all that anyone would want and need. Courage, kindness, patience, selflessness, calmness and acceptance.
There are some extra benefits to this, you will truly hear the other person, you will want to learn the person, all the while offering love in action. When you stop to think about that… it sounds wonderful!
Don’t be afraid… give it a try!
