How to Transform Fear into Love and why this is so crucial for a fulfilled life

Alexandra Zuber
Jan 17, 2019 · 5 min read

“You either act from a place of love or from a place of fear”

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When I heard this statement for the first time a couple of years ago, it made me reflect a lot about it and I realized it is so true.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, a Swiss-American psychiatrist who had examined the 5 stages of grief and regrets by working with terminally ill people came to the conclusion that our two main emotions are fear or love. Yes, we have other emotions but they all stem from those two.

When was the last time you acted based on love?

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If you are actually going for it or not depends on if you act upon love or fear.

To avoid any misconception, let's define the two first.

Definition of love and fear in this context

Fear is “the feeling of aversion that arises from the belief that something or someone will cause us harm or pain, or is somehow dangerous to us”, so not only being scared walking alone in the streets in the night but more about existential fear, fear of success (YES!), fear of being judged, fear of being alone or being abandoned, fear of the unknown, grief, guilt, shame, apathy, anger… you get the point!

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Love and Fear cannot exist at the same time

“Every time we choose love instead of fear, we utilize that power.

And the more we utilize it, the better we become at doing so.”

How to choose love over fear

1. Awareness

2. Focus

Where your focus goes, energy flows!

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As an example, if someone says something that hurts you or triggers you, try to come from a place of compassion, trying to understand why this person would say such a thing. It has probably to do with their own pain.

3. Feel and dig deeper

4. Give and you will receive

5. Practice gratitude

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6. Be mindful of your environment

“To live from love not fear, on a practical level, is to shift from a goal of protecting our ego, being right, winning the argument, being not to blame, and move into actually being kind, being loving — in our actions. It is to be willing to stop proving that we’re a good person and actually be that good person — to be courageous enough to open our heart and be love even when our ego is screaming in fear.”

Your reward will be to experience yourself as love rather than the small ego.

“We are rewarded with a freedom that surpasses all other freedoms. Ultimately, it is through our willingness to stop defending our idea of ourselves that we discover our true and indestructible self.” (Colier, Nancy. 2019)

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What are you choosing?

Sources: SkilledAtLife.com (2018)

www.psychologytoday.com (2019)

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Love U

Love University

Alexandra Zuber

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Certified Coach, on a mission to inspire and empower driven souls to live their potential for a life full of meaning, freedom and impact! www.alexandrazuber.com

Love U

Love U

Love University

Alexandra Zuber

Written by

Certified Coach, on a mission to inspire and empower driven souls to live their potential for a life full of meaning, freedom and impact! www.alexandrazuber.com

Love U

Love U

Love University

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