If You Want a Long-lasting Relationship, You Can’t Be Lazy

The honeymoon phase won’t last forever.

Adaeze Sherleen Ilo
Loveful Mind

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Photo by Anthony Tran on Unsplash

Disney and its slew of romantic cartoons did a number on us growing up, especially women — ‘And they all lived happily ever after.’ Who could forget that one? And Hollywood with its stereotypes and romanticization of toxic relationships — cue Mr. Big and Carrey Bradshaw in Sex and the city.

Add Scenes from raunchy music videos of rappers and musicians that subconsciously told us that women are for the sexual gratification of men also played a role in our current predicament.

Pop culture has a huge influence on how we view the world. It has the power to shape how we interpret expectations for relationships, friendships, family, and life issues.

While we were being indoctrinated with scenes from Cinderella, The notebook, Sex and the city, Gossip girl, or the flashing scenes of musicians surrounded by many beautiful women in our childhood and teenage years— our momentary viewing pleasure has left us with the end product.

Here is an adult generation who walk around wanting the exciting rush of falling in love but are not willing to do what it takes to keep that rush sustained for the long term. Our naivete and pure laziness have left a trail of broken relationships in our paths…

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Adaeze Sherleen Ilo
Loveful Mind

Just a happy go lucky girl who recently embraced her writing super powers. Now I write to make up for lost time.