Never Complain, Never Explain
Four little words which sum up the art of charm
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‘Never complain, never explain.’
Immortalised by Benjamin disraeli, prime minister of England in the 1870’s, known for his diplomacy, eloquence and especially his charm.
Charm so potent, in fact, he found himself in highest favour with the monarch of England at the time, Queen Victoria. His approach was never seedy, overt or obvious, but always indirect, subtle and genuine. He aimed at a persons repressed desire, indulging them in whatever part of their characters they had been denied from exploring or expressing.
Disraeli and Queen Victoria met in the mid 1870’s when Disraeli first became Prime Minister. A decade or so before the Queen’s husband, Prince Albert, had died and left her more than grief-stricken. She had increasingly withdrawn from the public eye (and therefore less popular in the public opinion) and become increasingly sour, hard and bored to tears by matters of politics. So hard, in fact, her courtiers advised Disraeli to abandon his usual charm and elegance when addressing her and maintain a strictly business-only approach.
