This is Why Your Ex Played Games with You
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“I wish people would stop playing dating games”
A phrase I’ve heard uttered more times than I can count.
The thing about game-playing is that no matter how hard we try, some form of ‘game’ will almost always be played in relationships, especially in the early stages. It’s simply because it’s a natural occurrence, even a necessity, in the dynamics of human attraction.
We’ve all felt the rush of getting to know someone new & attractive. Intrigue, lust, uncertainty and anticipation all mix into an intoxicating cocktail we call desire. Some of these feelings can even be a direct result of game-playing.
When I say playing games, I mean things like not messaging back immediately, not contacting your date straight away after a meetup, trying to make them jealous etc.
When it boils down to it, games are naturally played in dating & relationships because attraction requires a mix of desire and uncertainty to exist, but it’s a bit deeper than that
All those games your ex used to play can be explained by just one word;
