How do I introduce BDSM into my relationship?

as discussed at Touchpoint April in NYC

Touchpoint Storyteller
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2 min readJul 27, 2016

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Ever since 50 Shades of Grey, millions of people have been curious about BDSM, and how to bring it home. ;)

Unsurprisingly, it was the first question ever voted up at our initial Touchpoint Town Hall amongst friends in April.

Here are some ideas that emerged from that conversation.

“First of all, WTF is BDSM?”

BDSM stands for Bondage & Discipline/Domination, Sadism & Masochism, and is a variety of erotic practices or roleplaying.

“It’s not about pain.”

Sure, some folks like to get pretty aggressive with whips, chains, biting, and more — but that’s not what BDSM is about.

“It’s about elevating your sexual experiences from the purely physical to the fantastic.”

Sex can be more than the same old physical mechanics you’re used to. You can apply a whole new psychological layer when you experiment with fresh and exciting dynamics like blindfolds, masks, roleplaying, and more. It forces you to engage your imagination and use your creative mind to spark new feelings and sensations.

“It’s a testament to how safe you feel with your partner.”

Exploring the erotic with a partner means that you feel safe enough to let yourself go — to release your inhibitions and insecurities. If you don’t feel safe enough to explore these sides of you, perhaps it’s a good time to reevaluate your relationship.

“You’re pushing the limits of the human experience and what you can discover about yourself.”

You don’t know what you’re capable of expressing, feeling, or sharing until you try new things. Pushing your boundaries, teasing your senses, trusting your partner — these things empower you to identify sides of your personality you didn’t know were there. And wow, will you be excited to find them.

It’s time to let your freak flag fly.
Or at the very least — find it.

Join us for the next Touchpoint Town Hall by getting tickets or subscribing to our mailing list here.

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