How do I know if I’m good in bed?
Your partner feels safe.
Great sex is safe sex — and that doesn’t just mean you use contraception. It means your partner feels safe to express what they want and to explore what they imagine with you.
You’re picking up what your partner’s throwing down.
Sex is like dancing — someone leads, someone follows, and you’re both sensitive to each other’s cues. Being good in bed means listening to your partner, paying attention to the little nuances of their lovemaking, and responding accordingly.
You show love to your partner’s whole body.
Being good in bed means providing a full-body experience for your partner. Lots of kissing, touching, tickling, and more makes sex with you meaningful, memorable, and tantalizing. Don’t rush it.
Ultimately, it depends on who you’re with and when.
Finding a partner that you are physiologically, emotionally, and spiritually compatible with isn’t easy. It turns out that we’re best in bed with people who check these boxes. So when it doesn’t feel right, don’t beat yourself up, or brand your partner as a rookie. Just accept that everyone’s not for everyone.
These ideas came from touchpoint:nyc on May 3, 2016.
