Relationships

Can Your Ex Be Your Best Friend?

Spoiler alert: It’s about as likely as winning the lottery.

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Today is his birthday, happy birthday, ex.

But wait, Do I want him to be happy? Not really.

Should I care? Not really.

But the twisted part of me wants to send a text that says, “Happy one year closer to needing plastic surgery to look young again.”

See, obsessing over exes is like trying to make sense of a cringe-worthy birthday wish — it just doesn’t work.

Over at The Guardian, it said:

A breakup can be worse than a bereavement,” says Miles Pulver, a relationship therapist.

And yeah, it stings every single time.

It felt that way with my first love, and the next love, and it was with him.

Could it be because when a relationship ends, it is a loss?

And we humans don’t like losing? Unlike death when there is permanence, breaking up with an ex, means a life without them but also living a life knowing that your ex lives a life without you.

And that is where the hurt comes from, and it could stay with you for years.