How dare you need me to listen to you!
When I hung up the phone I knew that I had let myself down.
I’ve been thinking so deeply about the process of listening, really listening, to someone who has an opinion that differs from my own. And here I was deeply not listening to someone who has an opinion that differs from my own.
I think I had imagined it as a theoretical exercise with someone that I had no real relationship to. Someone who wasn’t in my world whom I randomly met and they didn’t believe in gay marriage. This could happen, if I put myself out there and make it, but what is much more likely is that the people I am in interaction with all the time will give me an opportunity to listen to them when they need it.
I didn’t anticipate that I would have the opportunity to deeply listen at a moment when I felt that I had been in the ‘right’ and they had been in the ‘wrong’. The injustice! How dare you need me to listen to you when I am the one who needs to be heard!
But that’s when listening would be most useful.
I have so much to learn.