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Be Honest in Your Conversations
Or don’t speak at all, because you will be reminded of how wrong you are if you don’t
Your thoughts form in your mind first
Your thoughts form in your mind, travel internally down the back of your head, to your neck then up to your chin to flow out of your mouth as words. At least this is how I visualize it happening. I’m sure that there is a clearer scientific explanation about this topic but that is not the point of this article, so I’ll get right to it.
Thoughts and emotions
Your thoughts are attached to an emotion, and they have power. So, when you speak your thoughts out loud, they can have a positive or negative affect on the receiver. That is why it is important to think before you speak. Not only that but processing what you are going to say to ensure that it is a truthful statement is also important. Why? You ask.
Well, since your thoughts are attached to an emotion then speaking them out loud gives them voice. If that voice speaks words that are not true to how you feel then you have just lied to not only yourself but to the person you spoke those words to. I experienced this revelation for myself not too long ago.
Having a conversation
My husband and I were talking recently about a mutual person in our lives that I have had a not so great relationship with. He was telling me about a good decision this person just made that would (or is supposed to) help them in a certain area of their life and how he was glad that they made it. He was excited for them hoping it would be a good thing. Where I on the other hand immediately thought “hmmm, as if it is going to make a difference, this person is not going to change they do things like this often”. However, what I said out loud instead was; “Wow, that is good for them, I am glad they are trying to make a change”. I knew that that was not what I really wanted to say, but trying to spare my husband’s feelings I said it anyway. Boy was that wrong of me, not to mention a negative mark on my integrity which is something I pride myself on having.
When your body calls you out on your BS!
Shortly after this conversation my conscious got the better of me right along with my body. I began to feel this uncomfortable nervousness in my chest and stomach as I do when my spirit tells me that something is amiss. I get those fluttering butterfly feelings internally which is exactly what I got that day. That feeling stayed with me for a couple of days until I processed the conversation we had and acknowledged my true feeling about it. That was when I realized how wrong I was for not speaking my true feelings or not having a response at all (which is what my first mind told me when we were having the conversation). I knew at that point I had to come clean to my husband because if I did not I would feel bad about it so, I admitted my true feelings to him that night. Funny thing is he knew me well enough to know that my first response was not an honest one.
Is your body calling you out on some BS?
Think about something you have been in involved in recently and process how you are feeling physically at this moment. Have you recently gone through something and can relate to what I am saying?
I wonder if maybe your chin and or throat began to feel uncomfortable as the words were pouring out of your mouth (as did mine) like a sore throat or a massive toothache.
Maybe fatigue or stress set in right away or hours later.
Maybe deep down you know you did not believe what you said and that is why your body began to make you feel so uncomfortable.
Maybe when you said you were glad for something or someone when you really weren’t all of those sensations started to happen and you didn’t even realize why.
AND maybe until you acknowledge the lie or false emotion it manifested itself physically.
Honesty, Integrity, and your conscious
Our family, friends, co-workers and anyone else we communicate with deserve for us to be truthful in our relationship with them and that includes when in conversation. We may not always agree, like or understand what they are doing, where they are coming from, or the decisions they make but we should always have enough integrity within ourselves to be honest about those things with them.
Our bodies have a way of speaking to us about almost everything including our thoughts and spoken words. It usually does so through our subconscious which can manifest physically or mentally (placing the right thoughts in the forefront of your mind) however; they are only useful to you if you can first recognize them for what they are and then acknowledge them.
With that said, the next time you begin to feel something a little strange or uncomfortable in your body soon after or while in the moment that you are having a conversation with someone; stop and think for a second if what you are saying is Truly how you feel.
