Beautiful Patience

As many of you know, Surah Yusuf has always been one of my favorite Surahs, with every experience in life, Allah has given me more of an insight into the treasures buried within this Surah and each experience helps me extract more of them.

Since little Yusuf has come into my life, I’ve began to understand patience like I’ve never learnt/understood it before.

Patience is learning to find the beauty amidst the difficulty. It’s holding your tongue from complaining when your so exhausted and nothing is helping soothe your distressed baby. It’s smiling when he wakes you in the middle of the night for a feed or another diaper change because you realise he needs you more than anything else in this world. It’s not allowing your mind to dwell so much on the past that it makes you forget the blessings of the present. Patience is focusing on the positives.

Patience is breaking down, it’s crying out all the build up of emotions inside, but then lifting yourself back up, calm and contented. Yaqub (as) cried. He embodied beautiful patience but he cried.

Most, if not all new mothers will experience baby blues in the first month or so — some more severe than others, but like Yaqub (as), this is normal and healthy for the healing process. It’s actually part of the beautiful patience. Because, when you have an option to give up, to bottle up, to lose control, you remain composed. You break down, but you don’t stay there.

Our body will be letting go of everything we carried inside of us for 9 months, and so too are our hearts. This is the healing process. The process of shedding the skin of singlehood which will be replaced with the skin of motherhood.

You realise that there is so much beauty in every difficult or challenging time and that’s what makes every moment of it, worth it.