Respect Survey Analysis
Majorities and minorities, inter-sections, feelings and perceptions
Cam’s Main Takeaways
- Most of the respondents have at least one category where they’re a “minority.” With that in mind, it seems like most people would benefit from us working on being a more inclusive society.
- People with more minority statuses care quite a bit more about getting respect. No surprises there.
- It appears that people with disabilities feel more disrespected than other people realize. I’m guessing they deserve more attention than they’re currently getting.
Table of Contents
- How Analysis Posts Work
- Respect Survey
- Sample demographics
- Majorities, minorities, and inter-sections
- Does everyone deserve respect?
- How often do you feel disrespected?
- Is your perspective valued?
- Want more respect?
- Becoming more or less respectful?
- What gets too much attention?
- What doesn’t get enough attention?
- Don’t buy it? Make it better.
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Respect. Everyone wants it, but not everyone gets it.
And, unless you put yourself in other people’s shoes, it’s hard to know what they’re experiencing and feeling. But that doesn’t seem to stop many from developing opinions about other people. We wanted to clarify how different groups feel about respect.
Here are our questions and results, and below’s what I found most interesting.
Whenever you look at survey results or findings, it’s a good idea to check the demographics of the respondents — that can have a lot to do with whether the results are likely to reflect a broad population, or just a niche group. This survey was distributed to our subscribers via email, through Facebook via targeted ads, and was shared by subscribers as well.
To be honest, this was pretty low participation for us at this stage of our growth, which is disappointing, but we still have a sample size of 215. I can work with that.
We heard from more women than men, we had a pretty even distribution across ages, and a little over half of our respondents were from Ada county.
(One other thing to keep in mind — this is an opt-in survey, which means respondents decided whether or not they wanted to participate. I expect participants are more interested in this topic than others, so our results may not represent the views of an “average” Idahoan.)
Majorities, minorities, and inter-sections
First off, there were a lot of demographic questions in this survey. That’s because it makes a lot of sense to know how people think about respect for their own groups versus other groups. Instead of going through each of these questions one-by-one, like I normally do, I’m going to put them all out there to start.
Depending on the demographic, we’re seeing somewhere between 15–25% identifying as a minority in one category or another. (Religion is an exception, with Christianity being only a plurality at 30%.) But, we can make that a bit clearer.
This chart allows us to compare all of the demographic categories and check out the proportions of minority and majority respondents across categories. There were a few with “?”, and that means they chose “Prefer not to answer” on some questions.
Good, good. But, then it comes to mind that an interesting thing to look at is how many people identify as a minority in multiple groups? This concept is sometimes referred to as intersectionality. Since I have the data, I can count that.
Check it out! Actually, the vast majority of our respondents identified as a minority in at least one category, and <20% said they were majority status in each category. Some even identified as a minority in every question (5)!
This is going to be a good dimension to use for segmenting some of the responses below.
Does everyone deserve respect?
Ok, here’s a context question. I generally assume that most people think everyone deserves respect, but I wanted to see if that’s actually the case. Also, if you say No to this question, it probably says a lot about how you think about the topic, or, conditionality of respect.
Overall, this was not nearly as clear-cut as I expected. Though most answered in the affirmative, only 40% chose “Strongly agree.” And around 15% answered in the negative — not everyone deserves respect.
To me this could say a lot about people’s thoughts on human rights and dignity, but it could also relate to differing views of what “respect” actually means. There were a lot of comments (below) that noted subtleties in the concept and definition, so perhaps people were thinking about this somewhat differently.
Let’s look at answers to this, segmented by that “minority count” dimension we looked at earlier.
Honestly, doesn’t seem that different across minority counts. If anything, perhaps people that have more minority distinctions disagree with this more.
That’s interesting — I’m wondering if that position might be related to a perspective like “you don’t respect me, so I don’t respect you.” I’m pretty confident it’s not a full-on blanket statement like “not all people deserve respect.” But maybe I’m wrong.
How often do you feel disrespected?
Ok, now we can talk about peoples’ experience. I asked about disrespect because it’s a lot easier to count that sort of an experience than it is for how often you’ve been respected. (But, perhaps that’s an overly privileged perspective?…)
Overall, we’ve got quite a spread on this question. The biggest answer proportion was “Less than once a month,” but we had people responding that they feel disrespect daily, weekly, and monthly as well.
I’m going to do a little grouping on this question to make it easier to visualize. Frequency will now be bucketed into categories of every day, weekly, monthly, or less.
And I’ll group the “minority counts” together as well — into 0, 1–2, and 3–5. Let’s see what that gets us.
Wow, check out the proportion of people with 3–5 minority statuses saying they feel disrespect every day! Roughly 25%, or 5–10x higher rate than those with 0 or 1–2 minority statuses. Damn.
I did a quick exploration of which minority statuses seemed to account the most for this, and it seemed like race and religion weren’t major factors. Sexual orientation, being poor, and having a disability seemed way more influential.
Is your perspective valued?
This question is kind of another way of looking at respect. To me, it has to do with inclusivity, and whether people take your opinion into account when they’re making decisions. This could be in government, your workplace, or other communities.
Overall, the most common answer was “Yes,” that respondents’ perspectives are generally valued. However, there were also a lot that said “Sort of” or worse.
We’re going to need to dig into this. Let’s look at that minority count view again. It’s been helpful so far.
Interesting result in this view. The 3–5 minority statuses group seems a little polarized on this topic. More of them answered “Yes, absolutely” than other groups, but an even bigger number answered “No.”
I’m guessing this has a lot to do with certain types of minority statuses being more included than others. At a glance, it looked like being a poor person, having a disability, or not being straight were the minorities being the most left out.
Want more respect?
At this point, we’ve got a pretty good idea about people’s experience, but we don’t know about whether they consider the status quo okay or not. Perhaps some people don’t feel like they get much respect, but they don’t care too much, or they’re tired of caring. Maybe some groups really, desperately want to be more respected.
Overall, most folks said it’s “Somewhat important” to them that they’re given more respect. And about twice as many people said it was Very or Extremely important compared to Not so or Not at all important.
Again, we need to segment this, because I’m guessing people that don’t have many minority statuses are getting quite a bit of respect, naturally, so they might not mind too much whether they get more.
Yup. Hardly anyone with 0 minority statuses said getting more respect was “Extremely important” to them. But, 25% that have 3–5 minority statuses said that.
It seems to me like those two groups are living in different worlds.
Becoming more or less respectful?
Alright, now let’s talk trends. I wanted to know whether we’re getting better or worse at respect where people live.
Overall, the picture is that it’s staying the same or it’s getting worse. 45% said people are getting less respectful, compared to about 8% that said they’re getting more respectful.
That jives with my personal experience. We seem to be at each others’ throats these days about all kinds of issues. And, even if society is making progress in some areas (like LGBTQ+ acceptance), it’s uneven, and definitely doesn’t necessarily translate to other minorities.
What can the minority counts view show us on this?
People with more “minority exposure” are feeling like things are getting worse more than people with less minority statues or none. I think they’re the ones that would have the best read on this. 🙁
Who’s regularly disrespected?
Okay we’re going to finish the charts off in this analysis with a bang. This question asked that everyone say whether or not they think different groups of people are regularly disrespected: Yes, Maybe, No, or I don’t know.
Overall, the weighted average chart shows us which groups people thought are most disrespected across all the responses.
The top 3 disrespected groups were considered LGBTQ people, Poor people, and Racial minorities. The least disrespected group was considered Men.
I also thought it was interesting to see people consider discrimination between young and old people. Old people edged out the young, but just slightly.
Now, we spent most of this analysis using “minority count” for segmentation, but from my brief explorations of different types of minority statuses, I saw that the biggest differences in opinion between the minority and majority were for poor people, people with disabilities, and sexual orientation.
Of these, only 2 of the 3 were in the most disrespected statuses in the chart above. The remaining one was people with disabilities. I decided to look at that one in particular.
Look at the differences in opinion between the people that have disabilities and those that don’t. Basically, people without disabilities are about half as likely to say this group of people is regularly disrespected.
I would venture to say that this is a group we need to be paying much more attention to. Many of us are aware of disrespect based on race, sexual orientation, and other things, but it seems like we’re not considering disabilities as much. Maybe that needs to change.
Lots of interesting comments, as usual. I’ve highlighted several that I think are particularly thought-provoking or representative, and I’ve bolded key phrases to help you skim.
What gets too much attention?
That some people feel men are being disrespected by others asking for respect.
LGBTQ. Live your life to yourself like the rest of us…you don’t have to broadcast your sexuality, no one cares, unless you shove it in our face, that’s offensive. Celebrities, not my source for influence…
That we should respect somebody for their religion, or they’re black. We should give people respect cause they’re people. Not cause they are different. I’m a bigger guy, and loud. i can’t hear correct so i speak louder making people not like me and don’t pay attention to my thoughts or ideas.
People believing their choice in religion or politics are the ONLY way it can be and they demand you listen, without listening themselves.
Television media pretty much routinely disrespects white males. Like in every commercial.
Money. If you have money, you get respect even if you haven’t earned it and don’t deserve it.
The feelings of rich white idiots and greedy native CEOs. We can’t relate to y’all and we don’t care about your “struggles.” We’re too busy dying in this drug crisis.
Political correctness. We should just respect each other, and there wouldn’t be any reason to be offended. Some people think EVERYONE should cater to them, instead of a give and take.
Young people thinking they deserve respect. They have no idea what truly respecting anyone means. These young people with their pants hanging down past their butt’s walking around saying respect me, respect me.
Christianity and it’s “lack of respect”. Rich, white men and their “standing” in society in Idaho.
Middle aged white Catholic men are expected to be treated like Gods
Peoples feelings being hurt. So much so the Democrats would love to make law based solely on feelings!!
The “war on christianity.” Which doesn’t exist.
I think that while there are still problems regarding race relations and sexual orientation, I think that for the most part many people are decent regarding that stuff. And I think stereotypes play a part in coloring peoples perceptions of communities. Idaho’s a red state so it must be overly hostile to racial or sexual minorities, or Boise is a blue city so it must be hostile to religious and rural demographics. I don’t think it’s that simple.
Identity politics. Our society has become a bit too sensitive on the small disrespect issues (easily offended based upon how someone says something and/or disregarding the intent of the individual) while overlooking and/or dismissing the major disrespect issues, such as legally protected classifications and unprotected classifications such as the LGBTQ community. In Idaho, where the majority conservative view is such a super-majority, minority voices are often underrepresented and once a minority voice is brought forth, it is so underrepresented and under-representative of the super-majority that people here do not always know how to handle it other than just calling them crazy. True discourse is forfeit and tends to turn into an even more heightened experience and pushes people to the corners and disconnections result. Identity politics divides progressive voices instead of unifying around common ideals, which is why the GOP loves to inculcate identity politics into their political discourse nationally. The GOP and their corporate backers knows that if identity politics wins the day, so do they, by dividing liberal groups into identity factions/segmentation, as no one group carries a majority capable of overwhelming their unified minority perspective nationally.
Thinking that everyone deserves respect. Respect is earned not owed. If you are a respectful person, act respectfully, and treat others with respect — then you have earned the right to be treated respectfully in return.
Personal choices — I don’t care what your sexual choice is, don’t force it down others throats. Homosexuality is not normal, and shouldn’t be considered normal.
‘Blank-slate’ people deserve respect. But ideas, beliefs, actions, lifestyle choices, risk preferences, do not, themselves, deserve respect. Too often, critiques of ideas/actions are assumed to apply to a person or all people associated with the person’s identify. As a somewhat crass example, a person can believe something idiotic but not necessarily be an idiot.
The “Golden Rule”. We shouldn’t be treating people as WE want to be treated, because not everyone has your same perspective and experience. It’s a cop out. It can be easy to shrug off your disrespectful nature if you say, “well, this doesn’t bother ME” or “This is how I think it should be”. I like the Platinum Rule: “Treat others the way THEY want to be treated.” It puts their needs at the center, and forces you to try to understand the other person, rather than just thinking everyone wants the same thing as you.
What exactly is the point of this survey? How does this have anything to do with the state of Idaho? You’re making it into a bigger deal than it needs to be. Treat everybody the way you’d want to be treated and we can be done with this stupid stuff. Stop whining guys, seriously.
Political correctness. Overblown, out of place, who has appointed themselves the judge of what is or is not PC?
Men vs women. I feel that, generally speaking, men and women get the same respect in small town Idaho, though it might be different in larger cities (i.e Boise, Coeur D’Alene).
Religious conservatives believe they and their faith deserve respect, yet most are not willing to extend the same respect to other religions or even the morality of non-religious people.
When a famous person did something dumb or disrespectful in their youth but have not repeated or continued that pattern of behavior, and the public dredges up that past example of bad behavior and condemns the present-day personality for it.
The idea of respect your elders. Just because someone is older than me doesn’t mean they have my respect. Respect is a two-way street, so it doesn’t matter how old someone is; if they don’t show me respect, they aren’t getting any from me. Also the idea that being respected and being liked can’t overlap. I would think they are more likely to overlap than not.
“I respect people who show me respect first.” Ugh. If everyone is waiting for the other person to make the first move….
I don’t believe you can legislate respect or kindness — I believe too much emphasis is put on forcing people to accept others, which then makes people defensive and feel attacked for their beliefs. Government should get out of the business of legislating morality and respect.
Too many people in the media are focused on things like micro-aggressions and being offended where no offense is meant. I think here in Idaho it isn’t as big of a problem as elsewhere, but we are still being fed the message, so it may become a problem in the future.
Comedians, celebrities, or politicians that have done or said something disrespectful to someone. We are all disrespectful, sometimes intentionally, but that doesn’t mean we are bad people or should be shamed into oblivion. We need to be more tolerant and forgiving as a society, but ensure everyone has liberty and the opportunity to pursue happiness.
Difference of opinions is not disrespectful — try to distance yourself enough to listen to both sides of an issue. Other people may not agree with you and that is ok.
That if one marginalized group starts asking for respect, others feel that means respect will be taken from them as a result — it’s not a pie.
What doesn’t get enough attention?
How hurtful it can be when people don’t give you the time of day, don’t care what you think, ignore you in important discussions. We need to be more inclusive.
Respect is supposed to go both ways. As a Christian with what culture considers a narrow viewpoint, respect is demanded of me with regards to everybody else’s life choices. And yet that same respect is not afforded back to me in my beliefs. I am “intolerant, biased…” because my views don’t condone or celebrate their views. I can simultaneously affirm their civil right to choose and express differently than me, but it seems if I do the same then they throw tantrums about how they’re not respected.
Marginalized groups receiving disrespect no matter what station they are at life. For example, a woman of color could work her way up into a high powered position, but will still be seen as “less than” by a large number of other people.
Lack of respect in schools. Too often we hear of students being disrespectful to other students, teachers, and school staff. Respect should be taught at home by the parents at a young age. I know we hear about issues at schools all the time, but it isn’t the teacher’s job to teach kids respect and manners.
Not enough attention is given to those who do menial tasks, they are usually treated like zombies.
Two sides: one is that we do not assess the intent enough (much disrespect is unintentional), but other end of that is more silenced voices, when they speak up about disrespect, are told to chill out. It’s all a learning opportunity if coupled with respect and civil dialogue.
Treat teens with respect and they will respect you. Teens are bigger elementary school kids and remember you were once their age.
As a person who works with youth, I don’t think there is enough attention being paid to raising our children to be thoughtful, respectful and accepting human beings.
I think most people agree that everyone deserves respect, but not enough people know what respect actually looks like. We need to focus more on teaching people why and how certain behaviors toward certain groups are disrespectful. For example, why it’s wrong to tell a gay person that you disagree with their lifestyle but you love them anyway. Or what constitutes sexual harassment and why that’s wrong.
Too often, locals aren’t learning how to treat people of racial & ethnic minorities. There are even minority people who don’t know how to treat people of other minorities respectfully. It’s a matter of being sensitive, not pushing your culture on others, expecting them to be competent in English while being patient if they’re not, and just not thinking of them as any less capable because of what they look/sound like. Blessings to all.
What the flag represents; freedom and equality for all, not just the rich and white.
The fact that it shouldn’t matter what a random person thinks about you. You be you, and if someone ‘disrespects’ you, suck it up and don’t cry about it. Leave that to the 3 year-olds.
Respect is not the same thing as giving in. It doesn’t mean someone has to change their opinion to now share your opinion. But on the flip side, it also doesn’t mean bulldozing over someone just because you expect your opinion/perspective to be shared or right. I see a lot of this on NextDoor apps. People just expecting their neighbors to “deal with” whatever their perspective is, all in in the name of “respecting” their home or patterns or beliefs.
People should realize that even though they may not fully understand someone’s identity (race, religion, gender or sexual identity) they still deserve to be treated with respect. And making an effort to learn about what makes people different can change everything.
Young people who are in public service jobs — i.e. wait people at a restaurant, or fast food place, shops, grocery stores etc. They should be better trained in providing good customer service. I have experienced being ignored, snubbed, or treated disrespectfully waiting to be served. Is this the fault of the employer or employee??
Respect for a person doesn’t mean agreement with their behavior or actions. People can disagree, or refuse to engage, while remaining respectful of the human being in front of them. Social media removes the reality that there’s a human being on the other end, not just words on a page. Respect is difficult when there is only an idea to consider.
All people deserve to be respected. The more respect we show, the more respect people will give. We all have a right to how we feel and our feelings should be respected.
Respect is earned. It has to be given freely and cannot be demanded, and is not due just because of rank or authority. It is something that must be reciprocal. Every person deserves to be treated in a manner that preserves their dignity, but not every person behaves in a manner that earns respect.
I think disrespect is much more linked to political orientation than who you are. If I’m gay, most people aren’t going to care about what privately goes on in my bedroom, but if you put an R or a D next to that, then either I’m a cool-aid drinker or a traitor. A mindless steeple or a disgrace to my demographic. That is the true source of disrespect.
For Idaho specifically, I’d have to say that LGBT issues are generally kept quiet. We live in a constant state of shame and disrespect from those around us and if anything is said it’s brushed off just like any other type of bullying/harassment. I wish straight people knew just how damaging it was to live in fear of judgement and anger of those around you for who you love. The entirety of human existence its to be happy and at peace with yourself and your community. How can queer individuals truly live if we must hide or be shamed?
Drug addicts are treated like trash and there is next to nothing that can help them. These people are poor. They can’t afford the help and this issue is spreading to all age groups. I know kids in middle school doing f***ing heroin and no one’s there to help them. Addicts are not worthless.
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