Grateful leaders show gratitude to others
As a manager, you can’t treat people in a way you don’t treat yourself. If you are an ungrateful person then you will treat your team members in an ungrateful way.
You can attend sessions or sit in coaching conversations where you are taught how to appreciate your team members but if gratitude does not truly come from you then it is only a matter of time before you revert back to your ungrateful self.
All of us can learn to be grateful and it’s not a difficult task, we just need to be intentional about it, and it does require a degree of self-awareness. When you are more grateful for your own self then you will have a more positive mindset that enables you to show appreciation and gratitude to others.
Here are some actions you can take to make you a more grateful person.
Be thankful for where you are
None of us have everything we need or want but there are some things we all have, so be thankful for the things you have. This reminds me of a parable about a man who was complaining about the holes in his shoes till he saw someone with no legs. How about that? He decided to be grateful for his hole-filled shoes.
I’m sure you have a lot to be grateful for. If you are reading this article then it means you have an internet-enabled device. That’s something to be grateful for. Why don’t you carve out a little time daily or weekly to list three to six things in your life that you are thankful for? And there is nothing wrong with being repeatedly grateful for the same things every week.
Say “thank you”
Yes, say thank you to those who have helped you in one way or the other and those who are still helping you. It may be your team members, other work colleagues, a friend, relative, previous boss, teacher, or lecturer who you have fond memories of because of how they have helped you. Remind them of what they did and say “thank you” to them.
You can send them a text message, a social media post, an email, a postcard, or even phone them to say thank you. Write a list of such people and send them your message of gratitude.
Intentionally plan to do the above two actions consistently
Plan to make the above two actions a habit. Put them on your to-do list and keep doing them. Do them at work and at home. Don’t let them be flash-in-the-pan actions you take and forget forever. Intentionally train yourself to develop the habit of gratitude.
Showing others appreciation and gratitude will not only make you a better manager, but it will also make you a better person.