Why Being Nice Is Not Enough
The hidden pitfalls of leadership
In an engagement interview with Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, she said it was a blind date through a mutual friend:
‘I didn’t know much about him, I just asked, “Is he nice?”’ — YouTube
She hit the point.
When you join a team, you often wonder how your leader is. Are they nice? Some are. Others not so much.
But, the big truth is that more than being nice is needed to work with people. It is a good start to the relationship, but managers need more meat on their bones moving forward.
You won’t read about the lack of boundaries today. You know that one already. Let’s look at feedback, emotions, dependency, inequality, and poor innovation.
Feedback impact is poor.
“Your project management skills suck, but you’re nice. Haha.”
When you’re nice, you don’t want to hurt other people. You avoid direct feedback because you don’t want to ruin your image and relationships.
Wrong!
“You didn’t deliver, but that’s ok.” I, too, said such a thing in the past — silly me. If employees always receive praise, even for mediocre work, they might not take you seriously when they actually…
