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Forget About Proving Anything to Anyone

You can’t prove anything to someone who doesn’t want to listen.

Tesia Blake
Aug 9 · 3 min read

The number 1 truth you forget all the time is: you don’t have to prove anything to anyone.

You don’t have to prove that you’re a hard worker. You don’t have to prove that you’re talented. You don’t even have to prove that you’re a good person.

You don’t have to prove your good intentions.

Do you know why? Because most people don’t care. Because no matter what you do, others will perceive you according to their own filters and biases.

That’s right, people will take a look at you and figure you out based on what they already think about humans in general. They’ll let their preconceived notions dictate how they evaluate you.

They’ll make their own assumptions about you, your character, your abilities, and your intentions. And you can’t control the conclusions they’ll come to.

They’ll judge you based on your appearance, and you’ll find that a first impression is almost impossible to change. They’ll have their own agenda and their own priorities, and you’ll find you don’t usually fit into any of them.

Acting as if you have something to prove will doesn’t help your case

When you’re worried about the image you’re projecting, you set yourself on a path to change it at any cost — but it doesn’t work.

The urge to achieve has to come from within. You need a set of guiding principles and inner strength to propel you forward, not feeling like you have something to prove.

If you let other people’s perceptions shape what you do and how you behave, you’ll end up pursuing what they think is valuable in detriment to what it’s actually valuable to you.

Proving something is tied to your appearance, being is tied to your essence.

All you have to do is to live by your standards and respect your own values (as long as you’re not hurting anyone else), and the rest is a consequence.

Your actions do matter

Your motivation should be guided by an internal moral compass. By a genuine desire to succeed at your endeavors. By the fire you carry inside, which propels you forward in life.

Your motivation should come from within, and what you do should be a genuine expression of who you are, not a reaction to how you think others perceive you.

Every action has a consequence. Every action generates a new perception, and you should be conscious of that, but if you try to shape your actions so that you’re perceived a certain way, not only will you be going against your nature, but you won’t have control over the outcome.

Going against your nature is not only unhealthy, but unsustainable in the long run.

So, forget about proving anything to anyone.

Instead, focus on being yourself and on pursuing what really matters to you.

The rest is consequence.

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Mariposa Magazine

A platform for those who have been through major life transformations, through vonluntary or unvoluntary change.

Tesia Blake

Written by

Names have been changed to protect both the innocent and the guilty.

Mariposa Magazine

A platform for those who have been through major life transformations, through vonluntary or unvoluntary change.

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