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Your Purpose Isn’t What Makes You Happy, It’s What Lifts You up After You’ve Been Knocked Down

Life has a way of teaching you exactly what you need to learn.

Tesia Blake
Jul 1, 2019 · 3 min read

If you feel like your life has no purpose, you might have been looking in the wrong place.

You might be mistaking something pleasurable, that makes you instantly happy, with your purpose — and then feeling incredibly frustrated when it doesn’t sustain you in the long run.

What gives you pleasure and makes you happy in the moment is ephemeral, and it’s a distraction, both from you pain and from your true purpose. It might temporarily soothe you, but it won’t keep you going. It might make you numb to how much you’re hurting, but it won’t push you to overcome what’s causing you to hurt in the first place.

Something that makes you happy may lose it’s flavor when things get tough. Your purpose, in another hand, should be the very thing that lifts you up when you’ve been knocked down.

Your purpose is what makes you get up again, dust yourself off and move on.

Yes, your purpose will bring you occasional bursts of joy and happiness, but it won’t alway be easy to pursue. Your purpose should make you happy in the long run, but it will definitely be frustrating at times. Exhausting. Challenging.

What makes you happy is easy, it’s guaranteed. What makes you happy doesn't instigate you to reevaluate who you are, or to ask yourself how you can be better — that’s what your purpose is for.

It’s when you try to get up after you’ve been knocked down that you find out what your true purpose is.

Sometimes, life knocks you down just so it can teach you a new purpose.

Life has a way of teaching the exact lessons you need to learn — but only if you pay attention.

A lot of these lessons come in the form of tough love — or pure hate. It’s ok to feel like life hates you sometimes, as long as you don’t dwell on it. If you rise up propelled by your need to kick life’s ass right back, that’s ok. Your purpose can be to prove that life can’t keep you down, no matter how hard it tries.

Whatever your purpose is, it needs to be that one thing that makes you stand up, look at life right in the eyes and say, “bring it on. I’m ready for you.”

You’re purpose is what makes you ready to work hard, to sweat, to learn. Ready to be humble and admit your mistakes. Ready to just keep going.

If you don’t know what your purpose is, look at your worst times — perhaps that’s right now — and identify what has pushed you to get up and try again.

Superficial purposes may get in the way and cloud your vision: money, fame, sex, power. Stick to those at your own risk. They might propel you forward for a time, but they won’t keep you going in the long run — and won’t bring you lasting happiness in the end.

Search for a purpose that gets you back on your feet and make you feel like every day was well-spent. Search for a purpose that uplifts the very part of you that’s keeps you strong: your spirit.

Mariposa Magazine

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Tesia Blake

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Mariposa Magazine

A platform for those who have been through major life transformations, through vonluntary or unvoluntary change.

Tesia Blake

Written by

Names have been changed to protect both the innocent and the guilty.

Mariposa Magazine

A platform for those who have been through major life transformations, through vonluntary or unvoluntary change.

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