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If You Have Trouble with Self-Care

SK Camille
Martha: Self-care

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Self-care is a key to happiness, health, integrity, and good relationships. But it’s common to resist it — either feeling that other people are required to meet your needs, so that you don’t have to, or, on the flip side, feeling undeserving of or disconnected from your own needs.

Self-care means taking responsibility for knowing and meeting your own needs, in every area of life — physical, emotional, spiritual, social, financial — not just for bare survival, but for growth and fulfillment.

Self-care isn’t selfish — only an abuser would say that it is. Self-care recognizes that all people are equal: no one is above another, and no one’s needs are more important than another person’s. All adults are both entitled to and responsible to look after their own needs, to the degree they are able.

Self-care goes beyond survival needs. Survivors of abuse and neglect can feel like all they’re entitled to is bare survival needs — because that’s all they did get, at times. They might have been taught they don’t deserve more, or aren’t capable of having it. But human life is more than surviving. You’re entitled to joy, growth, and fulfillment, too.

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SK Camille
Martha: Self-care

I cover general-interest professional topics in clear, actionable briefs. I also write about change, growth, and faith with warmth and optimism.