Things should be for you
Not for others.
I like to review, use, and talk about technology, as you can see on my other Medium publication Techuisite. I write technology reviews not to impress others but allow me to not only use something I am interested in but also be able to dissect it and share my thoughts with those who are interested.
When I purchased the new iPhone 11 Pro, I didn’t bring it up in every conversation with friends and family. Nor do I flaunt it trying to get a reaction or response. I don’t care if people know I have Apple’s newest phone, all I care about is the value it gives me when I use it.
Whether it is clothes, getting your hair done, growing a beard, buying a new car, or going on a once and a lifetime trip overseas. You should be doing all of these for yourself first. If you want to share your experiences with the world as I do in writing about it online, then you should not feel bad. But if you are purchasing or doing that thing just to share it, you will soon be very disappointed.
We must recognize that consumerism is something we all should be mindful of and protecting ourselves from falling in the trap of consuming just to consume. We should instead find value in all the things that we own and do. Part of that has to include recognizing that part of that value can’t be impressing others or trying to fit in.
When some recognize a nice pair of shoes that you are wearing that you enjoy, that is something to be happy about. That some else knows the same joy, you have in purchasing using that item. If you tell people you just bought new shoes fishing for compliments, you may need to think about who you bought the shoes for in the first place.
Part of the enjoyment of the things we own and the things we do is sharing them with others. But they have to start with you first. Make sure that you are genuine in wanting that thing for yourself. Then wear and share it with the world, knowing that regardless of what others may say or think, you are happy and proud of your decisions.