Things Happen In Training
Today’s Daily Stoic Meditation outlines how seeing every day, every event, every moment, as a part of your training can be extremely helpful.
“When your sparring partner scratches or head-butts you, you don’t then make a show of it, or protest, or view him with suspicion or as plotting against you. And yet you keep an eye on him, not as an enemy or with suspicion, but with a healthy avoidance. You should act this way with all things in life. We should give a pass to many things with our fellow trainees. For, as I’ve said, it’s possible to avoid without suspicion or hate.”
— MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 6.20
To see each day as training lowers the stakes immensely.
Rather than living your life as if it was final, the stakes lower, and you cultivate all sorts of beautiful skills.
Each Day As A Battle
Many people live their life as if every single moment, event and action, is final.
They have the idea that everything matters to an absolute T.
They live their life with such high expectations that it is hard to actually live.
If each day was final, if each day was the actual battle, the stakes would be through the roof. Alongside that would be your anxiety and stress most likely.
Living in such conditions is not sufficient or sustainable.
Each Day As Training
A way to combat this is to see each day as training. Rather than the actual final battle, you can choose to see it all as preparation.
You can choose to:
- You can choose to see every mistake as a learning point, rather than something fatal.
- You can choose to see each interaction with another as a chance to build your skills, rather than a chance for something to go terribly wrong.
- You can see each thing as a test, with the end goal of it all being to help you improve and develop.
When you see it all as a training exercise, the stakes suddenly become much lower.
You begin to encourage generosity to yourself and others, you cultivate an acceptance for when things go wrong and people make mistakes. As you know that it is not the be all and end all.
With lower stakes, everything else becomes less intense, too.
There will likely be less anxiety, less stress, less worry, as you know that there’s always another chance to improve.
There may be times when you’re having an extremely tough day, and you begin beating yourself up about it.
Or, there may be a sequence of bad thing after bad thing, and you just want to give it all up.
Whatever the scenario, choose to see it all as training.
Shake it all off and remind yourself that this is just training.
Remind yourself that these events work for you, not against you, as they help you grow and develop.
Remind yourself that there’s another chance to do better.
As James Clear says,
“Each day is a new battle to say yes to what matters and say no to what doesn’t. Focus is a practice.”