The Number 1 thing you should do In order to Change Your Life!

Want to Change Yourself? Then Don’t Set Goals.

Goals are necessary but there is something more Bigger than setting goals.

Achieving a Goal is Temporary Process

People say if you want something then set goals in Life. But that is only the half-truth.

To be More Broader, A goal is Just Momentary.

In other words, imagine you have a messy room and you set a goal to clean it. If you gather the energy to be tidy, then you will have a clean room — For now at least.

But if you maintain a sloppy habit that leads to a messy room in the first place, soon you will be looking at a new pile of things cluttered here and there, hoping for a new burst of motivation.

You are left chasing the same outcome because you never changed the system behind it.

You treated a symptom without addressing the Cause.

Achieving goals only Changes your life for the Moment. That is the Counterintuitive thing about all the improvement factors of your life.

We think if we achieve a goal then our life can change, I will be successful in this or that, but when it comes down to the long run, all the butter starts to melt.

The result behind a goal is not the problem but What you really need to change are the systems that cause those results.

CHASE AN IDENTITY INSTEAD OF GOALS ( create a system ) — ( a brief extract from James Clear’s Book Atomic Habits )

The key to building lasting habits or changing yourself is focusing on creating a new identity first. Your current behaviours are simply a reflection of your current identity. What you do now is a mirror image of the type of person you believe that you are (either consciously or subconsciously).

To change your behaviour for good, you need to start believing new things about yourself. You need to build identity-based habits.

Imagine how we typically set goals. We might start by saying “I want to lose weight” or “I want to get stronger.” If you’re lucky, someone might say, “That’s great, but you should be more specific.”

So then you say, “I want to lose 20 pounds” or “I want to squat 300 pounds.”

These goals are centred around outcomes, not identity.

To understand what I mean, consider that there are three levels at which change can occur. You can imagine them like the layers of an onion.

There are three layers of behavior change: a change in your outcomes, a change in your processes, or a change in your identity.

The first layer is changing your outcomes. This level is concerned with changing your results: losing weight, publishing a book, winning a championship. Most of the goals you set are associated with this level of change.

The second layer is changing your process. This level is concerned with changing your habits and systems: implementing a new routine at the gym, decluttering your desk for better workflow, developing a meditation practice. Most of the habits you build are associated with this level.

The third and deepest layer is changing your identity. This level is concerned with changing your beliefs: your worldview, your self-image, your judgments about yourself and others. Most of the beliefs, assumptions, and biases you hold are associated with this level.

Outcomes are about what you get. Processes are about what you do. Identity is about what you believe

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