On Lust: What it is. How you can deal with

Oluwatobi Adesanya
Aug 24, 2017 · 3 min read

If you’ve lived long enough as a male or a lady close to any male, you would have been inundated with the societal belief that men are visual beings or that men are by nature promiscuous or perhaps it is in men’s blood to chase after women as they want while the female counterpart are to be viewed as prey to be happened upon by any male whose libido drives in her direction.

I shake my head and my brain vigorously when I hear these things and I ask myself, “How did we get here?”

One of the greatest crimes man (the male) commits on a daily basis is to attribute the reason for his unruly behavior and sexual irresponsibility to the behavior and actions of the females. Nothing could be more devastating to any society when the men fail to see they are primarily responsible for everything they make happen.

So, I thought to bleed out some words on lust.

I began fantasizing about girls from as early as JSS1. Before then, we already had some form of sexual awakening with all kinds of slang we used back then in primary school. In secondary school, I’d imagine some of the prettiest girls in class naked. It was a secret mission I undertook almost every day even in church. I overcame this years later.

Now.

What is the definition of that?

LUST.

I was desiring the opposite sex for my personal and selfish pleasure.

In today’s world, we equate the fact the phrase “men are visual beings” to mean they are born to lust after everything they see in skirt or otherwise. In other words, sight meant lust.

Really?

As long as society equates the fact that men are visual to being a license to lust after a lady, rape and all kinds of sexual molestation will not cease.

Here’s the problem

Lust is never external. Lust never starts on the outside. It starts on the inside. It takes a lustful eye is the product of a lustful heart. Think of it this way.

Whenever I see my thoughts are going awry, I always say to myself, “Oluwatobi, the problem is not out there. It is in here (pointing to my heart).” When your heart is right as a male, a thousand and one naked ladies may cross your path daily, but you will see them as people who need help and not as beings who need to be groped.

I’ve seen videos on Social media here where ladies who men found to be scantily dressed are now completely undressed and shamed all in the name of teaching her a lesson.

Won’t a greater lesson be that when the men saw her in such clothes, they took her by the hand gently, walked into a boutique and got her better clothes?

You’d say “For what?” It is the same way I say, “Why on earth should men have the guts or rights to grope a lady or manhandle her or even as much as lust after just because she is not properly dressed?”

Many questions!

Men. You have to wake up. One of the proofs that you are really a man is your ability to demonstrate SELF CONTROL, To keep your ERECTION in the direction of your MARRIAGE and not in the direction of any lady that portrays her assets in any kind of clothes.

Until we win the battle on the inside, or until we realize that the battle is meant to be fought and won on the inside, men will continue to shame men and women will continue to be the victims.

We need to rescript our minds.

Men ARISE.

Men Arise

This publication raises core issues regarding males and how men can arise to take responsibility and be all God has designed us to be.

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Oluwatobi Adesanya

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Oluwatobi is a ghostwriter and Creative Director of Heart2World Publishing #Ghostwriter #Editor #Publisher #LoverofHisPresence Heart2worldpublishing.com

Men Arise

Men Arise

This publication raises core issues regarding males and how men can arise to take responsibility and be all God has designed us to be.

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