Is it Healthy to Not Argue in Your Relationship?
The Freedom of Not Fighting
“You need to argue with your spouse, or you are not being your authentic self”
This is a quote from a close friend of mine, who shall remain anonymous.
I was telling my friend, during a wine chat, how refreshing it is to not be in a relationship full of arguing and drama, for a change. As we sat, sipping our glasses of red, I couldn’t help but notice the slight eye roll shadow her face. Her advice was that, in order for me to be “authentic” I needed to stand my ground, and argue for what I wanted or needed in my relationship.
This friend is one of my favorite people, and I look up to her, on most occasions. This was not one of those times when I felt that she was better than I, at navigating relationships. She had just told me, during a monologue of cuss words, about a heated debate she had with her spouse. She was angry with him, even after two days had passed, at his lack of regard for her feelings. Listening to her go through the event, retelling her side of the argument, I couldn’t help but drift off to my past relationship memories.
