The Things Abusive People Say Should NOT Define You
It is so easy to believe what toxic people say
The triggers of toxic people, for some reason, stay with us longer and more intensely, than what kind people compliment us with. It’s ridiculous.
I say it’s ridiculous, yet so many memories of harsh words, insults and rude comments seem to trigger my day to day life. I can be taking on a project, doing a household task, or even writing, and I can hear that sneering, rude voice in the back of my head. “You’re doing it wrong”. “You’re not good enough”. “Why can’t you be more like her?”
The voices are continually nagging me, and almost identifying who I have become.
Almost.
What I Have Learned Over the Past Year
Triggers are nothing but the echoes of ghosts in our head. Trauma responses come and go, but triggers are always present if you have been in an abusive relationship.
You may be doing something, smelling something, or in an environment that brings back a bad memory. Even the sound of a distant song, or the taste of a certain food can bring back a rush of bad…
