We Don’t Understand Our Trauma Until We Leave it Behind
One of my most valuable lessons in life.
Traumatic experiences are phenomena or experiences that typically make us feel, in our guts, that something is horribly wrong. The most difficult of these relationships or experiences is when it involves someone you love, or who claims to love you. Your gut argues with your heart. Your heart, in turn, argues with your brain. You feel discomfort, and other strange negative vibes, but you cannot always put a finger on what is wrong.
Is it you? Is it them? You feel alone, betrayed, perplexed, shattered, angry, and sad. But you don’t know when it began or why?
Often times an “event” of some sort will create the beginning, middle or end of the trauma. It may be the reason to leave or the drive to find outside help. Perhaps an overheated argument, where you are pushed, hit, or blatantly insulted, will occur. Or maybe sexual boundaries are crossed. Sometimes events like these occur time and time again, but it becomes normalized and we don’t see it as trauma. We see it as part of our daily life.
Until, we leave.
