When You Become Your Therapists Therapist — is it Time to Find a New Therapist?
I walked in and sat down on the comfy couch at my therapists office yesterday.
“Michelle. I have to first tell you about a change here. I will be taking an indefinite leave of absence.”
So, my therapist of over 9 months explained that she found out her husband of 25 years is a narcissist and she is kicking him out of the house.
My therapist is getting a divorce.
‘Wow. I’m sorry…’ I said.
“Yeah Michelle— I normally don’t tell my clients my personal stuff but you know — you and I are so close…”
Yes. We have been close. We’ve been confiding with each other for awhile now but — mainly about MY SHIT not HERS.
I listened as she told me about a new ‘younger’ guy she met and how he makes her feel alive.
Hmmm…and I‘m paying for this?
It dawned on me that she is ten years younger than I am. Maybe, I need to counsel HER now? Maybe because of all my own personal growth I am now ready to switch chairs with her?
This could be.
It made me laugh to think that maybe I had grown to the point where I don’t even need her anymore. Maybe I’m able to fly on my own now.
