What If We Stopped Asking ‘What’s New?’
And became better conversational partners
I was out with my friend Anna. It’d been a while.
As soon as we sat down, she said, “Other than getting a new blood sugar monitor, nothing’s new. So what’s up with you?”
I sighed. This was typical behavior. She’s a great listener but often expects me to carry the conversation.
“You mean you haven’t spoken to anyone, read anything interesting, watched a good show, gone anywhere new, tried something fun, argued with your man, or eaten at a new restaurant in three months?” I asked with mock incredulity.
She chuckled, conceding the point, but seemed uncertain how to go on.
“How’re your weekly walks with Kerry going?” I asked.
“Oh, good. We’re up to 5K. The other day, she mentioned…” and she was off.
Although I made a lighthearted jab, I understand Anna’s challenge. At our stage of life, getting a discussion started requires more creativity than it used to.
In early adulthood, life is continuously changing, and the question ‘What’s new?’ is easy to answer. Between school, work, dating, friends, and kids, life is full of milestones you’re happy to share. Conversation flows easily.
