MINDFULNESS
Dealing With The Devastating Guilt Of Perceived Underachievement
— Try Gratitude Instead of Guilt.
Soon, it’ll be that time of the year when the giants wave their achievements around like a badge of honor and they make little people like us feel insignificant.
Well, they are on their right to wave them around because they earned them. But, are you in your right to feel unworthy and undervalued because you didn’t achieve as much?
Don’t hide. Tell yourself the truth.
Also, may I ask?
Whatever happened to ‘celebrate your small wins? And where did your confidence and pride run off to?’
Please don’t tell me you dragged it kicking and screaming into the basement again. If you did, go back in there and put it on with pride because your hard work matter.
Your achievements, however few, are giant stripes for bravery and intentionality. Don’t belittle them.
Also, celebrate your courage to pursue your goals. So, if the Giants can have at it with their success. So can you.
Feeling guilty about your perceived underachievement stalls your progress. It also undoes all the hard work you’ve poured your heart into, dragging you down with it.
How To Deal With The Devastating Guilt Of Underachievement?
Dealing with the devastating guilt of underachievement is tough because your head and your heart are on the line.
However, practicing the following steps helps.
- Try gratitude instead of guilt.
- Try learning instead of feeling intimidated.
- Encourage yourself instead of feeling unworthy.
- Instead of comparing success, try tapping into it.
- Instead of playing the blame game, try focusing on your goals.
— Try gratitude instead of guilt.
In my experience, feeling guilty about anything only makes moving past it a struggle.
Gratitude lessens the pain of feeling like you haven’t done enough and replaces it with an appreciation of what you have done.
So, the next time you’re tripping wrongly about the achievements of others, count your blessings and name them one by one.
— Try learning instead of feeling intimidated.
Success is important. People succeed so they teach other ways to do it better with more grit.
If you admire the achievements of another in your area of growth, go learn from them instead of feeling intimidated.
It’ll surprise you how much easier it is than lurking around scared. However, if they disregard you, seek someone else, dig deeper, read more, and put your findings into practice.
You can be the change to others.
— Encourage yourself instead of feeling unworthy.
Nothing stings harder than feeling unworthy after pouring your heart and soul into your goals.
So, why let guilt dig up this feeling in your heart?
You are worthy. Your goals are valid. Your journey is important. Listen to no one or anything that tells you otherwise.
Encourage yourself always. Believe you’re one step closer to achieving your goals. A process is called work-in-progress for a reason.
Own it.
— Instead of comparing success, try tapping into it.
By nature, we’re drawn to outstanding achievements, and we can’t cheat curiosity.
What we can defy is our response to the pressure of comparison and the angry voice screaming, “You’re nothing! You can’t beat that?”
To cheat this, you can tap into success stories and follow the journeys of the successful people you admire.
Fear not. You’re going to find some pretty relatable stories that’ll humble these giants before your eyes.
I’ll bet you $10 that if you do this instead of comparing your success to theirs, you’ll always find the will to keep going.
— Instead of playing the blame game, try focusing on your goals.
Don’t blame yourself. Don’t insult the universe. Importantly, don’t make excuses to give up.
Let the giants wave their achievements around for all you care. You’ve got a mission too.
Aye aye, corporal! Follow through.
They’ve put in the work to achieve their goals. You’ll do the same without shame or spite for your process.
My Message With Love & Light
Achievement is subjective and individualistic, and guilt is a beast. Let neither one, construed as what they aren’t, get into your head. It’ll destroy the stacks of six you’ve built.
Own your achievements and never see them as too little to celebrate. Underachievement isn’t a thing. Be grateful for your little beginnings.
Key Message: Feeling guilty about your perceived underachievement is a fine line you don’t want to cross. Practicing gratitude and encouraging yourself are excellent ways to deal with it.
Hi, I’m Jane. I enjoy sharing articles about gratitude, growth, healing, wellness, and intriguing relatable topics.
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