Why Your Social Circle Shrinks in Your 30s (And That’s Fine)
Finding depth in the high tide of friendships
In your 20s, life is like a grand party, a buffet of friendships where you can sample all sorts of connections. There’s an unspoken belief that the more, the merrier, as if the number of friends you have is a direct measure of your social success. But as you wade into your 30s, you realize the tide is receding, leaving behind what matters.
The Great Friend Exodus
Remember those days when your phone was an endless scroll of contacts? Birthday bashes where you didn’t know half the guests? That was the norm. But now, as I’ve journeyed deeper into my 30s, I’ve noticed my phone’s contact list has become more of a carefully curated collection rather than an all-inclusive party.
It’s not just me. Talking to others, I’ve realized this is a shared experience, a sort of rite of passage. It’s not about losing friends but about transitioning. It’s the difference between quantity and quality. You start valuing connections that bring depth rather than just another face in the crowd.
The Unspoken ‘Why’
When I first noticed my shrinking social circle, it felt like a personal failure. Was I less likable? Less fun? The truth is far…
