12 Powerful Ways To Change Your Life When You Feel Lost and Hopeless

An honest, authentic guide to self-improvement.

Ayodeji Awosika
Mind Cafe
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9 min readDec 22, 2019


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Let’s take a look at my life just a few short years ago.

I had a 0.00 GPA in the first semester of my senior year in college. You read that right, I got F’s in every single one of my classes. I didn’t bother going to class at all. Oh, did I mention I dropped out of school when I only needed three credits to graduate?

I drank 7 nights a week and tried every drug imaginable other than the big three — crack, heroin, and meth.

At one point in my life, I had little hope, felt like I was rapidly falling behind in life, and I didn’t really know what to do. I hit bottom.

But here I am now. Life is 1,000 per cent different, 180-degree turn, all that good stuff.

Not that a life transformation can be summed up in a few simple prescriptions, but the general ideas of self-improvement can lead to specific changes that you can make in your life. You can make them.

Let’s be honest, most people don’t. But you can. That’s all I can give you, but fortunately, that’s enough. If you want to change your life, here are some places you can start.

Be Honest With Yourself

You’ll never be able to fix your life until you admit it’s broken. Don’t pretend everything is okay when it’s not. You need to take full responsibility for your life up to this point.

Admit that you’ve made poor decisions. Admit that you haven’t been working as hard as you should be. Understand that you get a mental payoff from lying to yourself.

Most people would rather die in a pool of their own rationalizations than change, which is understandable. Honest self-reflection doesn’t feel good. It’s brutal. It hurts. We don’t really want that feedback from the world that shows us who we really are. We don’t want it, but we need it. You need it.

Stop lying to yourself.

Get Fed Up

One critical point in my life that I’ve written about ad absurdum at this point. I literally had an isolated moment where I decided to change my life. I stood up in…



Ayodeji Awosika
Mind Cafe

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