3 Self-Mastery Life Skills: That Everybody Needs and No One is Taught in School

Colton Swabb
Mind Cafe
Published in
8 min readMar 17, 2023

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And how to learn them for yourself through direct experience today.

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Self-Mastery — you see it online, but what actually is Self-Mastery?

Funny enough, I contributed to this confusion as the last time I wrote an essay with Self-Mastery in the title it got nearly half a million views and never explained what Self-Mastery actually is…

Whoops.

So, it’s reasonable to ask, “What is Self-Mastery?”

The basic definition of Self-Mastery is impulse control. Delaying gratification. Using your willpower to override your instincts.

But that can turn into self-punishment very quickly.

And that’s not good for you.

So, I prefer to look at Self-Mastery like this…

The recognition that there are multiple parts to your Self, and not all of them want what is good for you.

Which is why the Self needs to be ‘mastered’ in the first place.

This is also why…

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Colton Swabb
Mind Cafe

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