38 Lessons Learned in 38 Years

Today is my birthday. Here’s what I’ve learned as I reflect on this past year.

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Each birthday, I reflect back on what life has taught me. Read my prior lists here: ages 35, 36, and 37.

This past year, I feel like I’ve started to come into my own as an online creator. (After 15 years of writing online, this is the first year I’ve even called myself a “writer” or “creator.” It always felt strange to claim that title, but I’m finally coming around to it.)

Since my 37th birthday one year ago, I’ve launched a Substack publication, begun posting consistently on LinkedIn, recorded my first online videos, published my 300th post on my website, got paid to give my first corporate talk (then gave 10 more), and started to frequently make guest appearances on leadership podcasts.

I’ve also suffered a ton of self-doubt and often questioned whether I have what it takes compared to other creators who seem to be better, smarter, or more successful. (More info below about how I’m dealing with the comparison game.)

Looking back, here are 38 lessons I’ve learned this year, split out by topic.

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