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4 Things I Learned In Couples Therapy About Communication
Many people think couples therapy is for people who have a failing relationship. But those people are shooting themselves in the foot.
No matter how great of a match you are with someone, there will always be issues. And a therapist has years of training under their belt to help you strengthen your relationship before it becomes a shit show.
My boyfriend, Nish, and I decided to start seeing a couples therapist to learn how to be better partners for each other. Nish described to our therapist that “we want to go from 90% to as close to 100% as we can.”
We’ve been seeing our therapist for a few months now, and we already see the benefits. We have zero lingering arguments. We communicate better. We feel more loved and cared for by each other.
And that all came down to one thing: communication.
It’s said that poor communication is one of the leading causes of divorce. But the truth is it’s probably THE leading cause, since many issues like financial problems, or unmet needs, boil down to not communicating correctly.
Our therapist educated Nish and me on effective communication that helped us navigate inevitable ups and downs. We’ve learned to support each other and have a relationship that’s even closer to 100% as a result.
