Do You Expect Happiness From Other People?

Write your own reality with these science-backed mindset shifts.

Anangsha Alammyan
Mind Cafe


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Expectations lead to resentment.

When unfulfilled — and most often they are unfulfilled — they ruin your relationships.

In this post, I’ve curated five things you should stop expecting from other people in your life. Each observation is backed by science and will help you become a more secure, self-aware person.

1. You see what they show you, not what you want to see.

Often, we view our relationships through the lens of our ideal world.

Instead of accepting someone for who they are, we keep expecting they’d be perfect. We wait for the right time when they’d mold themselves according to our wishes.

And in waiting, we end up needlessly hurting ourselves.

While making major life decisions, it’s important to stop expecting people to change. Accept the current version you see, and don’t expect they’d turn their lives around for you.

Your history with them might cause you to get blindsided.

But people change.