5 Signs You Have What it Takes to Accomplish Your Dreams

Statistics say that success is meant for a few people

Ayodeji Awosika
Jan 29 · 8 min read

“Big dreams aren’t meant for everyone.”

As a self-help writer, I get this comment at least once a day.


You Smell B.S. When it Comes to Authority Figures

If you’re anything like me, you’re more than a little bit skeptical of the “official narrative.” You don’t think you should listen to your teachers, the media, politicians, hell even your own parents.

  • Our team, good! Other teams, bad!
  • Money is evil. You’re selfish for wanting financial flexibility & freedom.
  • Be modest. Don’t stand out and go for what you want. Be a good little boy or girl.
  • Don’t have the money upfront? No worries, all it takes is a few easy payments.

You Know How to Listen, Take Directions, and Be Coachable

I help other writers get their careers off the ground. The number one reason most writers don’t achieve this? They won’t listen.

You Avoid Negativity, Apathy, and Escapism Like the Plague

As time goes on, I start to believe more and more in all these weird metaphysical concepts like vibes, auras, and energy. I stay away as far away from the bad juju as possible:

  • Complaining — Am I some perfect self-improvement robot who never complains? Nope. But I steer clear of perpetual complainers — the type of people who could be looking out at a beautiful sunset through their car window but complain that there’s a spot on the window partially blocking their view.
  • Seemingly benign but harmful activities — “Happy hour” is an odd name for what usually goes on during this time. It’s kind of an extension of above — a time to complain, gripe, and gossip. If you’re smart, you don’t always avoid things like drinking, T.V., and entertainment altogether (I hate when people advise this) but you don’t let your life get consumed by them.

You Make it Past These Critical Benchmarks

99.99% of people quit a new hobby, goals, side project, venture, etc before six months is up. Probably 90% of people quit before 90 days.

You Understand What Dreams Are Really About

You don’t want money. You want the freedom to do what you want when you want.


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Mind Cafe

Mind Cafe

Relaxed, inspiring essays about happiness.

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