5 Ways to Support Your Insecure Partner In (And Out) Of The Bedroom

Experts give some advice on how to help your partner boost their sexual confidence.

Jaleel & Nicole
Mind Cafe
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5 min readApr 6, 2022


5 Ways to Support Your Insecure Partner in (And Out) Of The Bedroom
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Let’s face it: As great as sex can be, it can also have a way of bringing out your insecurities.

And, when you’re not feeling good about yourself, it can be hard to get into a sexy mindset, be in the moment, and focus on enjoying sexual experiences. If you’ve got a partner who feels self-conscious in bed, those feelings might just get in the way of both of you really having a good time.

Unfortunately, body image issues are unnervingly common. At least one in every three men and women deal with body dissatisfaction, with some research even saying it’s actually up to 84 percent of women and up to 90 percent of men.

Insecurities in the bedroom, in particular, are also common: In an informal 2018 survey of 1,000 men and women, 78 percent of women said their biggest bedroom insecurity is their body while 67 percent of men said it’s their sexual “performance.”

While confidence must be internally built at the end of the day, a partner’s support and validation can certainly help — especially when it comes to sex.

A study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found that women who believe their partners like their body tend to have better sexual functioning (i.e. more frequent desire, more lubrication, more orgasms, and overall sexual satisfaction).

So, whether you’ve got a partner who just isn’t feeling their body right now, or they’re someone who generally struggles with body image, here are five ways to support their confidence in (and out) of the bedroom.

1. Let them know how they make you feel.

First, the obvious: Let your partner know exactly how they make you feel.

It might go without saying, but let’s say it anyway. If you want them to feel sexy in and out of the bedroom, you have to make them feel sexy. Chances are you already feel like they’re incredibly sexy, but a little compliment goes a long way, especially for an insecure partner.



Jaleel & Nicole
Mind Cafe

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