A Simple Psychological Test to Know If Someone Is Genuinely Interested In You
This trick works best in group situations.
There I was, sweating in my party dress in the August sunshine, desperately trying to impress a woman named Lucy. Lucy was cool, she was pretty, and she seemed to like me, too. I was unbelievably nervous but hopeful about our potential future as friends.
“So what kind of books do you enjoy reading?” I asked her. It’s my go-to ice breaker because books are an easy subject for most people to talk about.
“Oh! I love romcoms most. The old school stuff was bad, but the newer books are right up my street,” she said.
“Definitely!” I replied. “Nothing better than a happy ending.”
Then she did something that is very, very rare in group conversations. She asked me a simple reciprocal question.
“What about you? What books do you like most?” Lucy asked, oblivious to the fact that she’d just blown my mind.
It was at that exact moment that I realized she was genuinely interested in me as a person.
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